So Here We Are!

 7 years later. 3 babies later. God is still so faithful and so good. I was waiting for my change to come. And it did. It was not easy. It was not a walk in the park. But I learned to love. I learned to respect me.

And God saw it. And He rewarded me with this special love that I longed so much and so long for. See sometimes we think we are ready for certain blessings but we are not actually. But Gods timing is always so perfect. And his plan is so perfect. Just wait on God and his perfect plan for your life will unfold right before your eyes. I can guarantee that he has not forgotten about. Read Jeremiah 29:11. Believe that! 

FROM GIRLS TO LADIES...

Girl, just because he whispers in your ear and calls you beautiful does not mean that he respects you. Just because he buys you gifts and flowers does not mean that he loves you, or even respects you in the least bit. Learn to respect yourself. Some people will do anything to get what they want out of you, and there you go, giving IT to him. Learn to respect and love yourself first.

Don't get me wrong. I was there once. All I wanted to hear was, "I love you."  It didn't matter to me who it came from. I just wanted to hear it. I had no self- respect, no self-esteem, and no self-love. Where did that lead me? It lead me to lot of disappointments. It lead me to men who cared nothing about me. All they wanted was what was between my legs. Did that mean that they loved me or even cared about me? NO! Did that mean that they even respected me? NO! Respect was that last thing on their agenda.

See, it's like this! IF YOU DON'T RESPECT YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF, CARE FOR YOURSELF, YOU CAN'T EXPECT SOMEONE ELSE TO DO IT!! They just won't. The process begins with you. YOU ARE THE PRIZE! Always remember that. You are a gem.

How do you earn that respect? How do you dress? Do you dress in a manner that portrays being a lady or does your breast hang our for all the world to see. Are your shirts so short that we get to see your belly button and in the indentations that sits on the top of your behind. Is your dress so tight that men don't have to wonder what is underneath because its already visibly outlined for all to see? Is your skirt so short that the whole world can see what lies betwixt your thighs. THIS SHOULD NOT BE!  Begin to Dress with some class and then you will see a difference in the type of men that you attract.

How do you earn that respect? Young ladies should not be heard using all types of profanity in their language. IT'S NOT CUTE! It's degrading! Talk like you got some sense! Go read a dictionary or something. Increase your vocabulary and learn to speak intelligently.

How do you earn that respect? Carry yourself in a manner that shows dignity and integrity. Do you always speak loudly when unnecessary? Is your hair done at all times? Do you act foolishly in public or do you act like you have been taught manners? Do you even respect others? When in compromising situations, do you ALWAYS seem to lose your cool?

Respect yourself. Love yourself. That's all I'm saying. When you begin to carry yourself like a lady, people will begin to respect you as such! Until then, don't complain!

What Will You Say?!

Happy New Year Everyone,
I haven't written in a while, but that doesn't mean I don't have anything to say....here it is

We go through this life acting like time is on our side, acting like we don't have anything to do, and like life is not privileged. Why? We treat each other any kind of way. We talk down about each other to each other and ain't doing nothing to help each other. There will come a time that we will have to answer for this behavior! What will you say?! Will you say, "Well, I was about to...?" What were you "about" to do? Why haven't you done "it". None of us are excluded. Not even me.....

What will you say?! We are around here living life as though tomorrow is promised, like there is no work to be done.Walking around in our new clothes, new shoes, fresh cuts, and hair do's, but what have you done? Are you only looking out for you or have paid attention to your fellow brother or your fellow sister just to see if are in need of anything that you are able to give. What will you say?!

What will you say?! Ask yourself.Question yourself! What can I do? Am I living so that I might live again. Am I doing what is required of me to do? Do you even KNOW what is required of you to do? What will you say?!

See, this life is not about self-gratification and religious acts of nothingness that are only performed so that men might see us and applaud us for just living a "good, full life" That is not it! You had better wise up because when that time comes, What will you say?!

The Controling Factor

God is ultimately in control. However, you have the mental capacity to control your emotional environment. Sometimes we allow too many external things to persuade or control our internal self. Life happens. Changes take place whether you initiate them or not. It takes place whether you even like it or not. Change has to happen. The problem that most people have is adapting to change and gaining control. So as a result, one may began to feel overwhelmed. This is when it's time to take time to just chill. Take time to settle your emotions and rationalize the change. Prayer during this time is vital to your next move. Being able hear what your inner being is saying also critical at this moment in time. Sometimes it proves successful to just sit and calm yourself down. Determine in your mind what is the best course of action based on the situation not feelings. Have an hear to hear and open yourself up to possibilities. Possibilities stretch far and wide. There is a vast array of them. Be sober-minded. You have that ability because You are the controlling factor. Take advantage of your ability to think, adapt to change, and gain control of your emotional environment.

Gracefully Take a Bow

Relationships can be a bit tricky. If it's not the right type of relationship, it can be detrimental to your growth. Therefore, learning to gracefully bow out of certain relationships will put you on the right path to recovery. Sometimes we try to hold to something that really could be hurting us because of the way it makes us FEEL. You know what though?! Feelings are only temporary. They go and come. Letting go of something or someone gracefully will bring peace and comfort in knowing that season of life is over. Now it's time to conclude that chapter and move on to the next. It may be challenging sometime because you get used to the structure of how things were and how they made you feel. Get your life back gracefully. Don't be angry. Just recognize that it's time to move out of that and into whatever it is that God has for you. Take time to meditate and breath. Breathing helps! It is not the end of the world! You can walk right into your destiny or calling without being burdened down with unhealthy relationships. Gracefully take a bow. Pick yourself up and move right on into the next phase. You have done well.....gracefully. Be encouraged! Next!!

Your Power

I know that what I'm about to write is easier said than done, but it is imperative that I express this very fact in order to reach my pinnacle of freedom and in hopes of helping someone else begin to reach theirs. You should never give your power over to someone else. This act can cause you to internalize feelings and emotions that become the framework of how you view yourself. When someone's opinion of you means so much that it can persuade your personality, you have lost possession of your power to them. Take it back. When you feel worse about yourself after having a conversation with that person, you have lost possession of your power! Take it back! No one should make you feel bad about you! There is a thin line between being telling someone the truth about themselves versus being flat out derogatory and negative. The truth should be told in a manner that makes them WANT to change, not go somewhere and hide. I have been in position where some people thought they were helping me but were very negative and insensitive. The internalizing of negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions result in lowered self esteem and can lead to many tears and years of failed relationships, baggage, and self-hatred. Don't lose your power! And if you have lost it, take it back. You owe that to yourself and to your future.

How God sees You

Sometimes we give too much credence to the thoughts, feelings, and opinions of others about ourselves. Never do that. Gods thoughts are the only ones that matter. Began to look at yourself through the eyes of God. It takes so much energy to live your life through the judgement of another human. It's so ironic that we do that because all humans have flaws. So for me to base my life upon what someone else thinks of me means that I have subjected myself to their expectancy level, be it too high or too low. Instead, focus on looking at yourself through the eyes of God. Men are mere humans, not gods. Only God knows everything about you and your destiny. The Bible tells us to acknowledge GOD, (not man), in all of our ways and he will direct our paths. This is not to downplay sound advice or wisdom by any means. However, we must learn to cipher through what is good advice for you and what is not. What works for one individual may not work for you. One persons daily routine may not be the same routine that works for you. I am learning to look at myself through God's eyes because man's expectations can sometimes be impossible or even unattainable. I have also learned that I am my own worst critic. I'm harder on myself than others are on me. That takes a lot of energy as well. I am not God. Neither do I aspire to be. I want to be an instrument used by God and that is all. I may not be where I want to be in life at this moment, and I may not be where other people think I should be. But I believe I am right where God needs me to be at this point in my life and that is all that matters. This is what I resolve on this morning.