The Controling Factor

God is ultimately in control. However, you have the mental capacity to control your emotional environment. Sometimes we allow too many external things to persuade or control our internal self. Life happens. Changes take place whether you initiate them or not. It takes place whether you even like it or not. Change has to happen. The problem that most people have is adapting to change and gaining control. So as a result, one may began to feel overwhelmed. This is when it's time to take time to just chill. Take time to settle your emotions and rationalize the change. Prayer during this time is vital to your next move. Being able hear what your inner being is saying also critical at this moment in time. Sometimes it proves successful to just sit and calm yourself down. Determine in your mind what is the best course of action based on the situation not feelings. Have an hear to hear and open yourself up to possibilities. Possibilities stretch far and wide. There is a vast array of them. Be sober-minded. You have that ability because You are the controlling factor. Take advantage of your ability to think, adapt to change, and gain control of your emotional environment.

Gracefully Take a Bow

Relationships can be a bit tricky. If it's not the right type of relationship, it can be detrimental to your growth. Therefore, learning to gracefully bow out of certain relationships will put you on the right path to recovery. Sometimes we try to hold to something that really could be hurting us because of the way it makes us FEEL. You know what though?! Feelings are only temporary. They go and come. Letting go of something or someone gracefully will bring peace and comfort in knowing that season of life is over. Now it's time to conclude that chapter and move on to the next. It may be challenging sometime because you get used to the structure of how things were and how they made you feel. Get your life back gracefully. Don't be angry. Just recognize that it's time to move out of that and into whatever it is that God has for you. Take time to meditate and breath. Breathing helps! It is not the end of the world! You can walk right into your destiny or calling without being burdened down with unhealthy relationships. Gracefully take a bow. Pick yourself up and move right on into the next phase. You have done well.....gracefully. Be encouraged! Next!!

Your Power

I know that what I'm about to write is easier said than done, but it is imperative that I express this very fact in order to reach my pinnacle of freedom and in hopes of helping someone else begin to reach theirs. You should never give your power over to someone else. This act can cause you to internalize feelings and emotions that become the framework of how you view yourself. When someone's opinion of you means so much that it can persuade your personality, you have lost possession of your power to them. Take it back. When you feel worse about yourself after having a conversation with that person, you have lost possession of your power! Take it back! No one should make you feel bad about you! There is a thin line between being telling someone the truth about themselves versus being flat out derogatory and negative. The truth should be told in a manner that makes them WANT to change, not go somewhere and hide. I have been in position where some people thought they were helping me but were very negative and insensitive. The internalizing of negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions result in lowered self esteem and can lead to many tears and years of failed relationships, baggage, and self-hatred. Don't lose your power! And if you have lost it, take it back. You owe that to yourself and to your future.

How God sees You

Sometimes we give too much credence to the thoughts, feelings, and opinions of others about ourselves. Never do that. Gods thoughts are the only ones that matter. Began to look at yourself through the eyes of God. It takes so much energy to live your life through the judgement of another human. It's so ironic that we do that because all humans have flaws. So for me to base my life upon what someone else thinks of me means that I have subjected myself to their expectancy level, be it too high or too low. Instead, focus on looking at yourself through the eyes of God. Men are mere humans, not gods. Only God knows everything about you and your destiny. The Bible tells us to acknowledge GOD, (not man), in all of our ways and he will direct our paths. This is not to downplay sound advice or wisdom by any means. However, we must learn to cipher through what is good advice for you and what is not. What works for one individual may not work for you. One persons daily routine may not be the same routine that works for you. I am learning to look at myself through God's eyes because man's expectations can sometimes be impossible or even unattainable. I have also learned that I am my own worst critic. I'm harder on myself than others are on me. That takes a lot of energy as well. I am not God. Neither do I aspire to be. I want to be an instrument used by God and that is all. I may not be where I want to be in life at this moment, and I may not be where other people think I should be. But I believe I am right where God needs me to be at this point in my life and that is all that matters. This is what I resolve on this morning.

Woman of Worth! W.O.W!

I am a Woman of Worth.  I am not disposable or replaceable. I am a Woman of Worth. Not some piece of trash that can be thrown away or recycled. I am a Woman of Worth. Not some particle of debris to be pushed aside by the swift brushing of hands. I am a Woman of Worth. Made artistically in the hands of God who carefully crafted me into being. I am a Woman of Worth. Not to just exist but to set my distinctive, unique mark on the world. I am a Woman of Worth. Created purposely to set my imprint on earth. I am a Woman of Worth. To be appreciated and adorned with grace. I am a Woman of Worth. As a matter of fact, the world is better because of me. I am a Woman of Worth! I am sassy and full of class. I am intelligent and diligent. I am loyal and am clothed with humility. I am a Woman of Worth! In all my natural beauty...stilettos included! I am a Woman of Worth!

The Art of Washing Your Hands!

Washing your hand keeps germs and bacteria away. It saves you from sicknesses and diseases that could be life threatening or even fatal. Washing your hands stops the spread of germs and bacteria which stops the spread of illnesses and diseases.

I have recently learned the art of Washing my hands. I was getting sick. This sickness was beginning too take root and spread! But I learned to wash my wash my hands. And then guess what?! The sickness went away and stopped spreading. But I had to learn real fast because germs spread fast! And I didn't want any diseases to take over my body. So.....I learned to wash my hands. I think I did it just in time too!

That Pain Called Love

Honey, that pain called love is something!!  That Love that says I will love you no matter what you do or say to me or about me. That Love will hurt. Sometimes I wonder why I have to love somebody that is not showing love to me. But I have to remember that I too once was the reason for someone else's hurt. That love will hurt. You see...the Word says you reap what you sow. God was NOT joking! That love will hurt! Hurt hurts you. It brings such pain that makes you wonder what you ever did to deserve it. That love will hurt. Ironically, that pain called love comes with the desire, the undying need to pray. Pray for those you slander your name. You did it before. Pray for those who don't appreciate you. You did that before too! That pain called love hurts....hurts real bad. Growth is the result or it should be anyway. That pain called love causes you to look back and remember that you have also made mistakes, lied on folks, stabbed them in the back and the front, killed them with your words. Don't lament too long over that pain called love because depression is always ready to set up residence...

I have a story....

Ok...so everyone has a story. Every story is different just like every person is different. You never know what a person has gone through to get to where they are. It's like having a scar. Every scar has a story behind it. Scars have different shapes and sizes. Some sores don't leave a scar and if it does it takes a long time to form. But check this....not all scars are visible to the naked eye. Sometimes what looks all dressed up on the outside only looks that way.

I have a story. Some may not want to hear it, read it, or may not even believe it. That doesn't matter.  I have a story. I possess the scars that cover up my story. Am I ashamed of my scars??? No im not...my scars don't define me. They just tell my story. My scars were earned. I had to go through some things to get them. But my story is true and real to the naked eye. I don't make excuses for my story. I don't hide my story. Instead I will share my story so that God can get the glory! Hurt and pain have been many. I have a story. Many days have been gloomy and without sunshine. I have a story. But then one day the sun came out.....and now I am able to tell my story. I have a story....

I WILL CRY!!!

What is happening with our youth!!! My heart bleeds today because there is so much violence, so much hurt, so much pain. I will cry! But not enough changing. I will cry! Change happens in our homes. It begins with us! So yeah....im upset! The devil is on a rampage. Doing his job. What are we doing? I choose to pray. I will cry! I will protest with my prayers. How about you? I will protest by teaching and preaching that Jesus is the answer! How about you? I will protest by raising my sons to respect, love, and honor God, themselves, their family, and their church. I will raise men, not thugs; fathers, not baby daddies; and gentlemen, not menaces to society. We have a job to do! There is a cry to be made. It does not stop with us. It continues with us because we have a duty to protest in our homes, on our jobs, at our churches. It does not matter what color you are, it just matters that you do your part! Will you join me? Do your part.....our future depends on it. The streets are crying out with the blood of our young people! They are crying out for help; for the pain to stop; for their voices to be heard! We must do our part. A simple prayer, a kind word, a smile, a cry needs to be heard! What are we going to do? What are you going to do? I will cry out...

Life...

Hollywood paints such pretty pictures of life, with such beautiful horizons and green grass and breathtaking, happily ever after scenes.....That is is so nice of them to do that for our entertainment! I applaud them. Sometimes they forget to leave out the fact that life is not ALWAYS all that pretty. Actually life can be quite grotesque, gruesome, and not so glamorous. Life can make you cry, and it can make your stomach hurt (literally).  However, there are many lessons to be learned. To experience life is to grow up. It is to put things in perspective. It should be remembered that life is always good and always worth living, ESPECIALLY, if you are breathing. Breathing is a privilege, in case you did not  know. So, you always have to look at the bigger picture of life. Is my cup half empty or is my cup half full. I would say that my cup is half full. Life is teaching me that it is good. Life is good. Life is a good teacher. Things may not all the time be spelled out in big, bold, plain letters. Things may not look pretty all the time. But Life....life is good. Do you know why life is good? It is good because you are breathing. Your cup is half full. 

Assumptions

Making assumptions are never good! Hi. This is my first official blog. I hope you find it helpful and interesting, inspirational and motivating, captivating and intriguing.
I'm a simple individual, but I have had a challenging introduction to life. Now I'm on a journey. And guess what?! You get to go with me, if you'd like. So, starting today, don't assume that people know things that in actuality, they don't. Assumptions make your expectations high. Then when your expectations are not met based on what you assume, you tend to get upset. Be direct! Don't assume and things may seem to get a whole lot simpler!! At least for me they did. God Bless.